PERFECT IN BROWN

      "Perfectionism is the voice of the oppressor." - Anne Lamott

   Initially, I wanted to write a post about Minimalism but paused at a point because it wasn't perfect - I struggled with words to write because I wanted it to be intelligent, witty, insightful and void of errors; so as all my posts. Then, it dawned on me  that this is always the same routine that goes with every of my posts- always wanting them to be perfect, even in my shoots and other things I do, which limit me in doing things because making mistakes hasn't been one thing I love. I've always been one who likes doing things meticulously and anyone that has worked with me can tell - I love having things done perfect and if they can't deliver I do it myself and strive toward perfectionism; don't get me wrong, it's not bad to want things done great but sometimes embrace mistakes, cut yourself and everyone around you some slack.  You will not always be prefect but you can be better.
Perfectionism can be good and at the same time bad but those of us that struggle with it can tell that it's more of a self-torture and unhealthy habit, where mistakes is are not allowed, which affects the way we do things, meet people and work.

   There  is an extremely thin line between having admirable high standards and the torture of perfectionism. 
Tracing it down, it started with the way I was brought up, always told to attain a certain level(nothing short of excellence) and anything short of it, was heavily frowned upon. At first, it was easy and nothing much, till I couldn't anymore and I slipped and to the first time I thought I failed Oh! How badly I beat myself up to it and thought it was all-over.
    Most of the times, people struggle for perfectionism and end up in depression 
Perfectionism doesn't have to be in all parts of your life, it can be in an area of your life- relationship, work, social life and many more; which can have an adverse effect on you, behavior and relationships

Addressing Perfection is a journey, it doesn't start in one day and end in another; it's also a journey to self-discovery, here are ways I've been able to curb it, I'm still a work-in-progress.
✦ Realize it's a problem

 Most people don't know how badly it has eaten up in them, they can't tell if it's a problem because it has become a bitter way of life. One way of determining it, is take time to evaluate your life (work, relationships.etc) and it's impact on your personality, mental health. Realize it's a problem and torture and strive towards changing. It will be hard initially, sometimes you will slip back into it, it's ok but try and continue with your strategy.
   The fact that I know it's a problem, doesn't mean I'm going to take all my exes back or accept unfavorable habits from people, No! I'm still going to strive to having what I want, because I know I deserve better.
✦ Embrace mistakes 

Recognise that's it okay to make mistakes, see them as a learning process, ways by which things should not be done and look towards learning new and better ways of doing things and learn them
✦ Use your Ideals as guides not Absolutes/Standards for everyone else
✦ Mindset
Your Mindset goes a long way, I had/still having an All-or- Nothing Mindset. Sometimes, I make a plan and once I fall-out or maybe skip a day out, I cancel it entirely because I wanted to be perfect from the start- with no mistakes/overlap. It's either I go all-out or nothing at all, no in-between.
✦ Love yourself

This can't be over-stressed enough!!! Despite anything you go through, know you are Awesome and a Badass, don't let circumstances or people tell you less. Talked more about it here 
✦ Celebrate
I usually beat myself up for every "failure" and "little" feat I achieved - as far as it wasn't what I wanted, but slowly I'm learning to celebrate every little feat, victory and be grateful for everything that happens, either good or bad.
✦ Let go and Let God

I've learnt that there are certain things that are beyond my control, so I let go and Let God take His cause, because all things work together for me.
✦ Live in the moment

Worrying about the future and trying to be perfect has been one thing I'm a major  proponent of, that I forget to live in the moment and enjoy the presents of life. This rubs you of a lot of things and sometimes opportunities. Learn to live in the moment and stop worrying about things you can't control.
Photography: @shutterfeverphotography (I.G.)

This does not mean I will stop being a Reviewer/Critic because I don't feel they need to be perfect but they can be better 😊
Have a Lovely Week Ahead!
What are your thoughts on Perfectionism? Has it affected you in any way, do share, I will love to know

REMEMBER SHARING IS KINGING! 

MINIMALISM WITH A TWIST

                                                                *drum rolls*
Well, the Lookbook for this month is finally here!!! As you all know, every month my outfit posts will have a theme, you can view  February's here. This month is all about Minimalism (be sure to check every week for posts on it)
Minimalism is all about simplicity "less is more" ; its a movement in art, design and living, which strips everything to bare essentials. Minimalist Fashion has been on for a long while now and it's certainly here to stay.
Usually, Minimalism involves pastels, blacks and neutrals; how about styling black and white separately and together?! Well, that's what this post is all about! . We all must have been seeing the tie-front trend on shirts, skirts, trousers and the likes, I decided to infuse it with minimalism by tieing my polka dot shirt, also styled here, with my white silk shirt.

 - I achieved this by wearing the White shirt normally as a shirt,
- Then I wore the polka-dot shirt to my bust and buttoned it,
-  I tied the sleeves of the shirt on my waist.
- And Viola! good to go!

Photography: @cyril__dim (Instagram)
Editing: @evetonnia (Instagram)

 

 

What's your take on this outfit? What are the ways you will give the minimalism trend a twist? Are you a minimalist or maximalist? Do comment below, I really love seeing your comments.

 

#MWStyles - FOREST QUEEN

It's #InternationalWomensDay , so I'm throwing back to this shoot I styled last year. I also double as a Stylist.
   I chose to infuse the Greek Goddess into it, to give a Floral and Greek Queen, reason for the model's attire. Added the flowers, to give a subtle look for the queen. Though she's a queen and fierce but yet she's kind and knows what she wants for herself and her people.
The beauty and wonder of trees and nature itself give affirmation of God's creativity and perfection.

 Just because she's from the forest, doesn't limit her to her surroundings, she embraces the diversity of people and races and makes it work for her, because she's a Queen and a Woman.

 TEAM (I.G. Handles)
Photography: @Chromamedia_
Model: @Cassy.polo
Make-up: @haddasah_beeauty
Flowers: @madebyetse
Creative Direction&Styling: @evetonnia

 She is Kind
 She is Fierce
 She knows what she wants and goes for it.
"There is no force equal to the strength of a woman determined to rise" W.E.B Du Bois.

 TEAM (I.G. Handles)
Photography: @Chromamedia_
Make-up: @Haddasah_beeauty
Model: Agbir Rita
Flowers: @madebyetse
Creative Direction&Styling: @evetonnia

What does being a Woman mean to you and What are you proud of? What do you think about this ? let me know in the comment box. For Collaborations and Enquiries, email - moonwalkertalks@gmail.com

MONTH RECAP 01 - FEBURARY.

                   Currently Listening - Power by Deitrick Haddon
  This month has been one of my best months so far, so many things to be grateful for, started new things and many more, join me as I do a recap on the happenings of February.

 Currently Starting
- If you've been viewing my instastory, then you will know I've begun taking shoe-making class every Wednesday (perks of following me on instagram😏 ).Here, are the things I've designed and made this month.
- I've also started writing for a fashion and lifestyle site Stylehubng.com , you can check out my two segments here and here more new segments to come by God's grace
- I've also started a new segment on Twitter (you can follow here ), where people share the lessons they learnt during the week, be it spiritual, book-wise, experiences literally anything. You can also join the conversation, using #MWLessonOftheWeek, every Friday.
Currently Loving
-  I've been skeptical about getting new heels, since almost all my heel shoes develop one problem or the other after getting them, so I decided to go on a break. Well, decided to try my luck this month and got myself a new pair and I've been loving it ever since, so comfortable and attractive. What new thing did you get this month?
                             
Currently Appreciating
  - The love and support I've received so far, especially since I got nominated in two categories for the Redefiniton Fashion Show (blogged and reviewed it here)
- Also the wonderful people I've met this month and also the people who have stuck around with me all this while, my readers included.
Currently Looking Forward
  - To starting a lookbook series on the blog, where I create looks of a style or trend. For example, this month, the theme was French, you can view it here. Guess what March's going to be?
 - Looking forward to styling this set of lingerie, I got from Adedamola (I.G), soon on the blog.

                                       Spot my HDQ Planner by Dee
Currently Working
 - On my final year project, as defence is in the last week of March, and also working on becoming a better person and eating healthy.
Currently Excited About
   - The College Week happening in school because classes end by 12, thereby giving me more time for my project, relaxation and preparation for tests. Also excited about M-donughts!!! If you follow me on twitter, you'll know how excited I am. I literally talk about it every time, so M-donughts is coming for the trade fair, Amazing donughts with all the toppings, you can ever wish for. You can also order for yours (Lagos and Ota residents) here

Thanking God
- For the ability to post more on the blog, irrespective of my schedule, also making me an inspiration to others and  also making us to be alive, hale and hearty to see this new month and many more months.

    Lessons I Learnt this Month
-  Don't ever feel guilty for doing what's best for you.
-  Take life one step at a time, don't try and rush things or do many things at the same time.
-  Put yourself out there. Value yourself and let people know it. Be your own cheerleader!
- The Single life is not for the weak and faint-hearted.
- Appreciate yourself more, because you always deserve it. Give yourself credit for how much you've come.

How was February like for you? What lessons did you learn and what do you hope for this new Month? Do comment below, as I love hearing all about you. 
     HAPPY NEW MONTH!